如果我回到18岁我会对自己说……
What I’d Tell Myself If I Were 18 Again...
I like to joke that I am who I am today because I did everything wrong in my 20’s. I’ve always been fearless, and it often got me in trouble. Iwasn’t afraid to start abusiness, borrow abunch of money, or quit a well-paying job to travel the world.
Atthe same time,the fact that I took chances(and often failed) gave me the wisdom that I have today. Lessons learned through failure tend to be much more meaningful than lessons learned otherwise.
Now that I’m in my 30’s, life is pretty good.While I haven’t learned it all, I feel my head is screwed on straight enough that life is much less stressful. I’ve come into my own and built the foundation for a secure and prosperous future.
Even though things are going well, I often imagine what it would be like to go back into the past and teach myself what I know now. I know enough to be certain that I lost most of my twenties to a struggle with debt and poor decisions. If I had done things differently, maybe I could have been where I am now at age 22.
Could you imagine? Self employed and almost financially independent at age 22? No...not almost. My expenses were much less back then...I would have been financially free!
I know it doesn’t do any good to ask what if. If I had known it all at age 22, I probably would have been a little cocky. Doing things the hard way seasoned my character. I like who I am and I wouldn’t change a thing.
But what if...
What I’d Tell My self at 18？
Sometimes I imagine that I’m in a fishing boat, thousands of miles:
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away from the life I know, slowly drifting across a lake. As I recline at an uncomfortable angle created by the wood bench and aluminum hull, I glance over at the 18 year-old version of myself and upload my wisdom to him.
我常开玩笑说，我之所以是现在的我，完全是因为我二十几岁时把一切事情都做错了。那个时候，我什么都不怕，所以经常惹麻烦。我不怕为了创业而借一屁股的债，又或者是辞去高薪的工作只是为了周游世界。
也正因为那时候的我抓住了很多机会（虽然经常以失败告终），才让今天的我学到了许多智慧。相较之下，从失败中吸取的教训比从其他地方学到的东西更加深刻。
现在，我过着幸福的三十岁生活。尽管我还没有掌握到生活的全部，但是我觉得已经足够让自己的生活没有太大的压力。我有自己的生活方式，并且给未来打下了安全、繁荣的基础。
尽管一切都在顺利地进行，我还是经常想象，如果我回到过去并且把我现在学到的东西教给那个时候的我，事情会变成什么样子。我非常清楚，二十几岁的我大部分时间都在和债务以及自己的糟糕决定纠缠。如果我能用另外一种方式去做事，也许在我22岁的时候就能有今天的成就。
你能够想象在22岁的时候就自己当老板并且财政独立吗？不，简直不可想象啊！我那时的花费非常的低，说不定那时我就可以得到财政自由了！
我也知道说“如果……”是没有什么意义的。如果我在22岁的时候就能知道这些了，我可能会变得有些骄傲自大。困难让我成长。我喜欢现在的我，我不打算去改变什么。
但是如果……
如果我回到18岁我会告诉我自己什么呢？
有时候我会想象我在一只渔船上，离真实的生活千里之遥，慢慢地在湖中漂荡。我不太舒服地躺在木凳上，瞥一眼18岁的自己，然后把自己现在的智慧传给他。
Here’s what I say:
Don’t be so Serious
Relax...You’ve got your whole life ahead of you. I know it can seem like the most important thing in the world is fighting the good fight, but don’t let your life pass you by in the process. There’ll be plenty of time for starting businesses, writing books, creating art, and solving the world’s problems in your head.
It’s impressive that you do those things at such a young age, but life is really about experiences. Above all, it’s about sharing experiences with other people. Sometimes when you’re all wrapped up in your own head, doing the things that you are determined to do, you miss a chance to connect with other people.
So take it easy. Have some fun. Do something crazy. Let loose. Call up some friends and share some great moments together.
Don’t Be in Such a Hurry to Grow Up
A funny thing happens as you age: The older you get, the less of a hurry you’re in. You’d think it would be the other way around: the less time you have, the more of a hurry you’re in; but it’s actually quite the opposite.
At 18, it seems like you have to rush everything before you get too old. You think you have to graduate college, get a good job, and get married before you turn 22, because ( for some reason) you think 22 is old.
Don’t take being young for granted! Being a kid without responsibility is a thing of beauty. I know you don’t appreciate it now, but you will when you’re my age.
22 is just getting started! In fact, life gets more enjoyable as you age. As you learn more about yourself and the world, it gets easier to enjoy what the world has to offer.
Your 20’s are the perfect time to explore the world and experience new things. If you grow up before you turn 22, you’ll have missed a perfect opportunity. Experiences at 18 are just not the same as when you’re 25.
我会告诉他：
不要太认真
放松点……人生还长着呢。我也知道，似乎世界上最最要紧的事情就是打一个漂亮仗，但是请不要与你的生活擦肩而过。对于你而言，还有大把的时间去创业、写书、创作，去解决那些你考虑的世界问题。
能够在年轻的时候就做出那些成就的确让人印象深刻，可生活的真谛在于经历。最首要的，就是和他人分享那些经历。有时候，当你自己规划好一切，做那些你决心要做的事情，却错失了和他人交流的机会。
所以，要放松点。去享受乐趣，去做一些疯狂的事情，不要把自己绷得太紧。和朋友们一起分享一些美好时光。
不要急着长大
你那个年龄是很奇妙的：你年岁越大，你越少着急。但你也许却有另外一种思路：你有的时间越少，你越着急。可是事实其实是完全相反的。
18岁的时候，看上去你必须要在自己变得太老之前急匆匆地做完一些事情。你认为自己必须要从大学毕业，找个好工作然后在22岁之前结婚，因为（不知道什么原因）你认为22岁已经老了。
不要把年轻看得那么理所当然！做一个不需要负太多责任的小孩是一件很美妙的事情。也许现在的你不太赞同，可当你到了我这个年纪的时候就会明白了。
22岁只是生命的开始。事实上，生活随着时间的流逝变得更有趣。当你对自己和世界了解得越多，就更容易去享受世界所提供的东西。
二十几岁是探索世界、体验新东西的最佳时段。如果你在22岁之前就长大了，你会失去这个最佳机会。18岁的感受绝对不会和25岁的感受一样。
Travel, art, culture, sport, and adventure take on a whole new meaning when you have had some experience to build on. As you add layer upon layer, each experience is more rich than the last.
Choose Experience over Material Possessions
If you're ever faced with the choice of upgrading your lifestyle ( an apartment by yourself, a new car, new clothes, etc.) or working less so you can experience more; chose the latter.
When I was your age, I thought I needed to have nice stuff so girls would like me. I ended up working so hard to pay for the stuff that I didn't have time to meet girls.
Working hard is for grown-ups. Be a kid for as long as you can, even ifit means living with a roommate in a crappy apartment and riding your bike around town.
Besides, girls aren't going to like you for a while anyway.What they really want is a man with a little confidence and life experience under his belt. Working too hard will just delay that process.
Be Confident
Oh yeah, you might as well get a head start on your confidence. Believe in yourself no matter what. Don’t let self-doubt ruin your chance to meet a new girl or to try something new.
I know I just said that girls aren’t going to like you anyway, but that’s not entirely true. While you are accumulating the wisdom that comes with life experiences, your best shot is to project confidence.
Always act like you know what you’re doing, even if you don’t. The biggest turn-off for a girl is self-doubt. If she still doesn’t like you, take it with grace and move on quickly.
Don’t start doubting yourself if you get turned down. You’re going to get turned down a lot before you finally get the girl.
Don’t Get Attached
When you finally do get a girlfriend, take it easy. Along the same line as not trying to grow up too quickly, don’t fall into the trap of thinking that this is the best girl you’ll ever get. The second biggest turn off for a girl is an 18 year old guy who’s already thinking about marriage.
当你有所积累之后，旅行、艺术、文化、运动和冒险都会有一种不同的新面貌。你一层层地叠加起来，每种经验都会比上一次来得更加丰富。
比物质享受更重要的是经验
如果你面临这样的选择：改善你的生活（自己的公寓、一部新车、一套新衣服等），或者是减少工作时间去经历更多的事情，那么我建议你选择后者。
当我在你那个年龄的时候，我曾认为只有拥有许多物质才能让女孩子喜欢我。于是我努力地为拥有物质去工作，结果却是因为我太忙而没有了时间去结识女孩子。
埋头工作是成年人的事情。尽可能延长和享受你的青春吧，即使这意味着你要和室友共享一个公寓，并且在镇上骑着自行车乱逛。
另外，女孩子们在那时候总归不会喜欢你的。她们真正想要的是一个有自信、有生活经验的男人。而埋头工作只会推迟这一天的来临。
要自信
是的，你要建立自信。不管是什么一定要相信自己。不要让自我怀疑毁了你去结识女孩子或者尝试新东西的机会。
我知道我刚刚说了女孩子们不会喜欢你的，但是也不尽然。当你从生活经验中积累了智慧之后，你的撒手锏就是展现你的自信。
一定要表现得知道自己在干什么，就算你其实不知道。对女孩子而言，最扫兴的就是自我怀疑。如果她仍然不喜欢你的话，要从容地接受现实然后向下一个目标出发。
不要在被拒绝的时候开始怀疑自己。追求成功之前你总是会遭遇无数次的拒绝的。
不要被束缚
当你有了女朋友，不要太紧张。这和不要急着长大的道理一样，不要过早地认定这就是你一生的最爱。对女孩子而言，第二扫兴的事情就是一个18岁却已经考虑结婚的人。
Relax a little and enjoy the moment. Besides, you’re going to have several girlfriends before you find “ the one. ” How are you going to be able to know what you want if you don’t have anything to compare it to?
As you get older, you’ll naturally become more attractive to women. I had no idea this was true when I was your age. I thought that I was as attractive as I’deverbe. Not true.
It gets easier, I promise.
Don’t Get a Credit Card
If I didn’t get a credit card when I was your age, I would have saved myself 10 years of financial struggle.
I know it seems like you have to be a grown up and have nice things, but you’ve got to think long-term. If you can just have the patience to hold off a few years on the nice stuff, you’ll be able to afford more of it than you can imagine.
Buying something today on credit because you can’t wait will impact your financial situation for years to come.
Simply have the mind to save up for what you want to buy. If you buy with cash, you’ll always own what you have, and be free to do what you want.
When people build up debt and monthly payments, they become slaves to their job. They have to work to pay for all the junk that they put on their credit cards.
Put MoneyAway Every Month
Take this advice and you’ll never regret it. Open a savings account and set up an automatic withdrawal from your checking account each month. Don’t touch the money, NO MATTER WHAT!
Even if you can only afford $10 a month, you must stick to this plan because it’s your ticket to freedom. In five or ten years ( whenever you decide to grow up), you’ll use this money to investin something that makes passive income, like real estate.
轻松地享受当下。另外，在找到真命天女之前你可能会有好几个女朋友。如果没有可以比较的参照物，你如何得知你究竟想要什么呢？
当你日渐长大，你会很自然的对女性越来越有吸引力。我在你那个年龄的时候完全不知道这事情。我认为那个时候的我是最有吸引力的。这是不对的。
我保证，这会随着时间而变得越来越容易。
不要申请信用卡
假如我年轻时没有申请信用卡的话，我能够减少10年的财政困难。
我知道你认为作为一个成年人应该物质生活要丰富多彩，但是你要从长远来看这件事情。如果你能够有耐心为更优渥的物质生活多等几年，你会诧异地发现你能够过上更好的生活。
如果只是因为你等不及了就刷信用卡购物的话，这将会对你接下来许多年的财政状况产生影响。
只需要为你想买的东西存钱。如果用现金付账的话，你会一直拥有你拥有的，并且能够自由地去做你想做的。
当人们有了债务开始分期付款的时候，他们就成为了工作的奴隶。他们不得不为那些用信用卡刷出来的垃圾而工作。
每月定期储蓄
你接受这个建议就绝对不会后悔的。给自己开一个零存整取账户，然后每个月存入一定的数额。不论发生什么事情，都不要去碰这一笔钱。
就算每个月只能存入10美元，你也一定要坚持，因为这是自由的门票钱。五年或者十年内（当你决定成人的时候），你能用这笔钱去投资一些能带来收入的东西，比如房地产。
Travel and Learn a Language
Don’t just take language classes and backpack around Europe at a furious pace; immerse yourself in a culture. Pick a place and stay there for several months.
The best time to do this is the year after you graduate from college. You’ll be old enough to appreciate the experience, but young enough that you won’t have any responsibility.
If you took my advice about taking your time to grow up, you won’t yet be attached to a mortgage payment, a job, or a girl. Move all your stuff into a corner of your parent’s basement and live abroad.
It’s actually a lot more affordable that you might think especially if you don’t have any expenses at home. Get a job in your chosen country if you need to.
Don’t allow yourself to hang out with other English-speaking people. That’s too easy. Force yourself to learn the language. It will be frustrating at first, but the life-long benefit will be greater than you can imagine.
Keep a Journal
Get a Moleskin Notebook and carryit in your back pocket wherever you go. Don’t be a perfectionist with it; just jot whatever comes to your mind in it.
Having a journal will help to solidify your thoughts. The act of writing helps to close the circle of ideas from your head to your hand and back to your head.
Plus, you’ll have a record of your thoughts for generations to come.
Get to Know People
As you travel and try new things, make it a point to meet people. As I said before, the most valuable things in life are shared experiences with other people.
There is so much you can learn from people. Open your mind and take in different perspectives. Put yourself in their shoes and tryto understand why they think the way they do.
Your success in life will depend on your network of people. It’s impossible to achieve success in a vacuum. You never know what opportunities will present them when you meet new people.
旅行袁并且学习一门外语
不要只是参加语言学习班，并且背包游玩欧洲各地。你应该使自己沉浸在一种文化里。选择一个地方，并在那里待上几个月。
这件事最好在你刚刚毕业那一年的时候做。那个时候的你足够成熟去欣赏这个过程，又年轻得没有任何责任要去负担。
如果你接受了我的建议打算慢慢长大，你就不应该被按揭付款、工作或者一个女孩所牵绊。把你所有的东西打包放在父母家的地下室里，然后去国外生活吧。
其实这个比你想象的更容易实现，尤其是你在国内还没有什么花费的情况下。如果需要的话，还可以在你选择的国家找一份工作。
不要总是和说着母语的人待在一起，那太没有挑战性了。强迫自己去学习当地的语言，也许一开始会很痛苦，但是它会带来享用不尽的好处。
写日记
买个日记本，无论去哪里都带上它。不需要文辞华丽，只要记下你心中的点点滴滴。
写日记可以让你理清思路。写作这一过程能够让想法从脑袋里的碎片变成文字上的完整，然后再度回到你的头脑中去思考。
另外，时间的流逝中，自己的想法也会随之留下印记。
与人交际
在旅途或是新的尝试中，一定要记得与不同的人交往。正如我前面所提到的，生命中最有价值的就是与他人分享别样的经历。
你可以从别人那里学到许多的东西。要宽容地去接受各种角度的看法。设身处地地去理解别人的苦衷和做法。
你的成功会取决于你的交际网络。活在真空中的人是无法获得成功的。你永远无法预测到，当你认识新的朋友的时候会出现什么样的机会。
There’s No Rush to Have it All Figured Out
When I was your age, I felt pressure to have my life’s purpose figured out. I think a lot of young people think there’s something wrong with them if they haven’t “ found themselves ” by age 22.
Most people don’t figure things out until muchlater in life (if at all). That’s what your twenties are for: exploring different paths, making mistakes, falling on your face, and building your character.
Take your time figuring it all out. You don’t want to rush such a grand decision as your life’s purpose.
Savor the Moment
Experience the textures, sights, sounds, and feelings of each moment. Time moves faster than you think. Your youth is special and you’ll want to remember it for the rest of your life.
Start Businesses without Borrowing Money
When you decide to start abusiness, don’t go into debt over it. Most businesses fail, and it’s better to be left with nothing than to not have anything and still owe someone else money.
Pick a business that doesn’t cost much to start and grow slowly, reinvesting your earnings.
Choose a business that’s as passive as possible. Bulk vending is a good one to start with while you’re young.
Stay away from services. I made the mistake when I was your age of starting a T-shirt design service. The problem with services is that you have to re-create your work if you want to get paid again. Find something that pays you over and over for work done once.
Pick Something and Stick With It
Once you’ve had your fun traveling the world and being young, find a line of work that you are passionate about. Don’t worry about the money that will come with time. As long as you are out of debt and putting money into savings each month, you’re going to be just fine.
Don’t get into the habit of changing your mind all the time. Each time you change course, you lose all your start-up energy. Learn how exponential growth can affect your level of success in your chosen field.
不要急着给自己的人生下定义
我在你那个年龄的时候，我总是有一种要把全部人生规划好的压力。我想许多年轻人也都如此，如果他们没有在22岁之前“找到人生的架构”的话会觉得不正常。
大多数的人都是很多年之后才真正找到了人生的方向。而你的二十几岁应该去探索不同的路、犯错误、丢脸以及塑造自己的个性。
慢慢地来规划自己的人生吧。这样的人生大事，你可不能急匆匆地下决定啊！
咀嚼时光
去体验触觉、视觉、听觉，去感受每一刻。时间消逝的速度超乎你的想象。每一个青春都是特别的，而你会希望它值得在余生中被铭记。
创业，但不要借债
当你决定创业的时候，不要借贷。大多数创业会失败，这时，一无所有总比倒欠一屁股债有利吧。
选择一个入门成本不太大的事业来做，并且一步一步成长，把收益再度投资。
选择的业务越稳定越好。在你年轻的时候，散装销售会是一个好的开始。
不要涉入服务行业。当我年轻的时候，我作了个错误的决定—提供T恤设计的服务。服务行业的问题在于如果你想再次获利就必须再度劳动。去找一些做一次工作却能不断收钱的事情吧。
选择并坚持一件事情
当你周游列国之后，趁年轻你应该选择一份你对它很有热情的工作。不要为钱财担忧，时间到了面包总是会有的。只要你没有债务而且定期储蓄的话，你就不会有问题的。
不要养成经常改变主意的习惯。每一次你改变方向，那些前期工作都白费了。要知道，不懈的努力和持续的发展可以在你选择的领域里影响你成功的程度。
If you are passionate about what you do, and stick with it, you can’t help but be successful.
Back to Reality...
It’s fun to think about what might have been, but in reality, we can’t change the past. Ten years from now, I’ll have a whole new list of things I wish I knew in my 30’s. I would do well to take my own advice, and enjoy each moment.
如果你热衷你所做的事情并且能够持之以恒，那么你一定能够成功。
回到现实……
想象“如果”是件很有趣的事情，但事实上，谁都不能改变历史。十年后，我会有一个新的单子，写满那些“我三十岁时应该知道的事情”。我会认真地作每一个决定，享受每一分钟。
